To remedy my fears, I turned to seasoned dating coaches, Julianne Cantarella, MSW, and Elisabeth Lamotte, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, to figure out the biggest dating mistakes single moms make (and the smart moves that should replace them). "It's not only the woman who can be hurt if the relationship ends, but the children as well." A savvy single mom should wait as long as possible before introducing her kids to the potential boyfriend and never make the intro around the holidays, the experts advise."Women should gain a sense of her boyfriend's interaction based on how he treats her and possibly his own children if he has them," says Cantarella, who suggests erring on the side of caution."Once the boyfriend is introduced there is no going back, and expectations are raised," she adds.
I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.Indeed, in The Divorce Experience: A Study of Divorce at Midlife and Beyond conducted by researcher Xenia Montenegro for the AARP, divorce is observed to be as emotionally traumatizing to a couple as experiencing a major illness.Even after one moves on and attempts to get back to the dating scene, many scars and misconceptions may be carried over by a woman that will scare away any potential guys interested in forging a romantic relationship.